{"id":3246,"date":"2025-09-12T12:50:18","date_gmt":"2025-09-12T10:50:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/christineduerschner.net\/?p=3246"},"modified":"2026-10-06T12:14:35","modified_gmt":"2026-10-06T10:14:35","slug":"youarecrossingmyboundaries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/christineduerschner.net\/en\/youarecrossingmyboundaries","title":{"rendered":"You Are Crossing My Boundaries!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Relational dynamics and survival strategies at play.<\/h1>\n<\/div>\n
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I want to dive into the phenomenon of \u201ccrossing boundaries.\u201d You might have heard \u2014 and even used \u2014 the phrase, \u201cYou have crossed my boundaries!\u201d or \u201cThey have crossed my boundaries!\u201d in your life. As I was researching what healthy boundaries are, what they are not, and how they shape our interactions, I came across this expression repeatedly.<\/p>\n

The way we speak about our experiences is a strong clue about how we perceive reality versus what is actually happening from a neutral, outside perspective. I thought this could be an insightful entry point into the topic, and I was surprised by what I discovered. I have held space for several trainings solely dedicated to boundaries, and this sentence \u2014 \u201cYou or they have crossed my boundaries!\u201d \u2014 kept surfacing. As a research group, we started to examine what is actually going on when a person is in this state and uses this exact expression.<\/p>\n

What we found was the catalyst for writing a book about boundaries. This article is a part of this book in-the-making. It became clear to me that these distinctions and insights need to be shared, as widespread unawareness is causing countless misunderstandings and ongoing conflicts between people. I see the consequences of these inner and outer dynamics in my coaching practice with couples and individuals, during gameworld consulting with intentional communities and ecovillages, and even in my own community.<\/p>\n

To make these subtle yet impactful experiences tangible, I created a thought map called \u201cDynamics of Survival Strategies.\u201d<\/strong> This map translates the invisible, energetic, and emotional survival dynamics into something perceptible.<\/p>\n

By engaging with the distinctions I will share \u2014 and combining them with practice \u2014 you will train your energetic awareness and senses to perceive these dynamics as they unfold around you. Through repeated healing and distinguishing between actions driven by survival mode versus those rooted in the present moment, you will create space within your adult ego state. As a result, you will gain access to the ability to move beyond these patterns and organically will invent more suitable habits to consciously and actively create your life.<\/p>\n

Thoughtmap: Dynamics of Survival Strategies<\/h3>\n
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Thought Map: Dynamics of Survival Strategies<\/h3>\n

Take a look at the map above. It illustrates two people interacting, each using an opposite survival strategy they developed during childhood.<\/p>\n